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Posted at 05:42 PM on May 21, 2009
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I think this is such a fantastic article, that everyone should read it. I have experienced this both in my personal and professional life. Tarot readers often get asked about relationships that are not intimate from both sides of the fence. I must admit, that I have gone, and go through this on a personal level too. It's hard to watch and feel this kind of emotional betrayal.. I find it difficult to trust again, having gone through this so many times.
Please read this article.. it's VERY informative on many levels !
Could you be having an emotional affair?
A client I'll call Sharon knew that something was missing in hermarriage. She and Robert used to be passionate about each other, shesaid, but after 12 years and two children, she felt removed. Robertnever asked her about work or what she was worried about or felt likedoing. She was no longer attracted to him, and they rarely spent timealone together. If friends confide more to each other than to their spouses, they are having an emotional affair, expert says.
Instead, she threw her energy into raising the children and her job as a paralegal. Life had become bland.
Then there was Todd. He'd been at the law firm longer than Sharon andshowed her the ropes. They would discuss complicated cases, and Sharonfound his enthusiasm engaging. They'd grab coffee together, and sooncoffee became lunch, and lunch led to phone calls and e-mails as theirconversations went from professional to deeply personal.
Sharonthought about Todd all the time, and told me she hadn't felt this alivesince she and Robert had started dating. While she recognized a crushher excitement about seeing him, her pleasure in his jokes, her reliefin confiding in someone who got her -- she told herself there wasnothing wrong with what she was doing because they weren't having sex.